How To Keep The Romance Alive Beyond The Big Day


So you’ve said I do, had the best party (ever!) and sent your gown to the dry cleaners. So now what? Keeping the romance flowing and the tummy butterflies fluttering beyond the big day is what marriage is all about. Here are a few ideas to enjoy as Mr and Mrs.

Nab a Date Night

Organising a regular date night is a surefire way to ensure quality ‘couple’ time amidst busy schedules. If you have kids this is even more important! Think restaurant dinners,

movie nights, bowling, a picnic under the stars, sporting events and couples’ massages. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just something you both enjoy.

Try Something New

From dance lessons, wine classes and sky diving to working together on a recipe you’ve always wanted to try (croquembouche anyone?) a fresh challenge can be a great bonding experience.

Serve a Surprise Dinner

Don’t ever underestimate the power of a surprise dinner, especially if you’re not the one who usually does the cooking. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just a bit of an effort goes a long way. Especially if you crack out the wine early on.

Bride and groom

Tricia King Photography. Wedding of Joanne and Jim.

Buy Just-Because Gifts

It might be an eclair from their favourite patisserie, sporting or Gold Class tickets or a bunch of blooms. The look of surprise and delight on their face will be well worth it.

Play Nice

Many couples tell us they marry their best friend. Awww! So remember how to treat your best friend – with love and respect. Remember your your pre-wedding mantra, “don’t sweet the small stuff” and keep the communication flowing to sure you always get your point across without taking pot shot you might regret.

Get Outta Town

Even if it’s only for a night or two. Newlywed Jo tells us “a ‘get out of the city’ day for us a is a regular. Doesn’t matter what the weather is like, we’ll venture out to the beach or mountains.” Breaking the patter of everyday work and life stresses can be very restorative for mind, body… and marriage.

Host a Reunion

A school reunion can be fascinating in a ‘look-at-me-now’ kind of way but a wedding reunion is just for fun. Round up your bridal party, friends and family, crack out the wedding album and video and get your wedding playlist ready to rock. Create the mood by serving the same wine or canapés from your big day and ensure the celebration is about your guests as well as yourselves. Then prepare to feel the love in the room.

bride and groom

Sterling Studios. Wedding of Luke and Monique

Book an Anniversary Shoot

Just as an engagement shoot gets you acquainted with your photographer and relaxed for the big day, an anniversary shoot can reflect how far you’ve come in a year. It’s an opportunity to catch up with your photographer – after all, they are one of the most important people at your wedding! – and often you’re even more relaxed behind the lens. For some couples it even becomes a new baby shoot!

Remember… My Love Don’t Cost a Thing

Everyone loves a present but there are so many romantic or thoughtful gestures which will cost you nix. Shoulder massages come to mind. A passionate kiss instead a peck on the cheek when you leave for work. Saying ‘I love you’ out of the blue. A handwritten love note.


Just get out there. Hold hands. Look up. Enjoy.

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